Dating vs courtship christian
Recently, after someone I’ve mentored finally decided to declare that they were in a relationship, they didn’t know if they should call it dating or courting.Both terms seem to have connotations that their belief system doesn’t represent.In addition, it can be hard to find the “real” person behind the public face presented in front of the entire family.No one is the same in a group setting as he or she is one-on-one.If they find this hard to do, they must take steps to ensure that Christ will always be honored during their time together and that sin is never given a chance to take hold of their relationship.Just as with the courting couple, the parents of the dating couple should be involved in the relationship, getting to know their child’s companion and being a source of wise and discerning advice and guidance for both of them.
Read here to see how it worked out perfectly fine for others.
This is what one blogger said concerning courtship: “To me, courting became an ideal in the same way that socialism is an ideal — and while I flirted briefly with socialism as a 13 year old (reading some of Marx’s own writings), it didn’t take me long to see that what sounded great in theory and on paper resulted in disaster and catastrophe when implemented in real life.
Through observing the experiences of others, reading exhaustively, and studying Scripture, I have come to the same conclusion about “courting” as a philosophy” — it works much better on paper than it does in practice.” How does it work out in practice?
Rather than trying to navigate through the world of dating in a healthy way, it’s easier to overcompensate for one extreme by simply developing another.
So in the Christian community, models of courtship, no kissing until the altar, “God-told-me-to” break-up excuses and other confusing circumstances abound.” Our struggle as human beings is maintaining balance.
First and foremost, dating is a time when a Christian finds out if his or her potential marriage partner is also a believer in Christ.