Husband dating younger woman
We’ve all heard this idea before: men are designed to want to spread their seed, so in spite of their age and inability with age to care for children, they remain attracted to women who can propagate their DNA.
Schwyzer, on the other hand, believes that men are not hardwired to be attracted to younger women.
Not coincidentally, that’s the age I was when I divorced my much older husband.
Interestingly, the same survey showed that “One in three people think a bit of immaturity helps in bonding well with children,” and I concur.
But see, for men who covet younger women, it’s not whether you look good for your age – it’s what age you really are. If she wants to date a guy who is 6’2”, makes 0,000 , likes skiing, is within ten miles of her house and five years of her age, you know what? All she has to do is go on Match.com, and wade through a few thousand applicants. There are many other things that are attractive about older men. They can afford nicer restaurants and vacations and have cultivated greater tastes in the arts.
They’re more experienced, more chivalrous, and more likely to want to settle down than a twentysomething party boy.
An older man’s going to be the strong, nurturing guy who takes care of her, teaches her, and treats her like a princess – the kind of relationship that she probably lacked growing up.
Hey, I’m no psychologist – just your friendly, neighborhood dating coach. Whether we like it or not, there is nearly a full generation gap between 28 and 45.
He says, “If there’s one tangible thing that men can do to help end sexism—and create a healthier culture in which young people come of age—it’s to stop chasing after women young enough to be their biological daughters.” Schwyzer goes on to say, “As hyperbolic as it may sound, there are few more powerful actions that men can take to transform the culture than to date, mate, and stay with their approximate chronological peers.
So why are young women so willing to date older men?
“Ask women in their teens and 20s who are in relationships with older men about guys their own age, and you’ll invariably hear laments about young men’s immaturity,” Schwyzer says.
Time creates wisdom – but it also creates responsibilities and complications – mortgage, kids, career, etc.
All of this makes dating more and more complex as we get older. Still, most of them fail miserably, for the exact same reasons that I think Penelope is suggesting.
But I do know women, and lots of women in their 20’s. A few women may bridge this gap for lust or money or dimestore psychological reasons, but most of the 28-year-old women I know would prefer to date a great, stable 30-40 year-old – who also knows what Snapchat is. But don’t forget, you and your younger girlfriends are the EXCEPTION. When I was in my late 30’s I became involved with someone 15 yrs. The age difference did not seem especially significant during the 5 yrs we were together.