Studies on interracial dating
A fetish is purely sexual and the person will be attracted to ALL people of that race/appearance regardless of the person.By comparison, attraction is often just the spark which initiates a romance. If they don’t think your interracial relationship is based on a fetish, they might think it is a status thing, or a “come up.”This is most seen in interracial relationships with white women and black men.They just got tired of the stares and comments so decided to go on dates elsewhere.Or, if you are the woman in the interracial relationship, the women in your boyfriend’s life will probably shun you.“He was a white guy who was 19, and he would not let it go! Instead of shunning the curious stranger, they talked to him, and “it turned out that he had just started dating a black woman and was excited to see [our relationship] was working.It was goofy, awkward, immature, but it came from a genuine place.” You never know.
How can you tell when it is a fetish and not just attraction?If you try to ignore all of these differences and say that “race doesn’t matter”, then you are setting yourself up for a big shock.However, if you can embrace these differences, then your romance can flourish. Fetish assumes that you are turned on by certain characteristics or things, such as people with a fetish for pantyhose or scat or whatever. It is a bit difficult to define the difference between a fetish and attraction.You might not have a bit of racism in you, and your reasons for dating the man/woman of your dreams has nothing to do with race at all. Be prepared for the stares, stupid comments, and maybe even violence (thankfully, this doesn’t occur often anymore in Western countries).You two will have to do your best not to let the racism of other people interfere with your relationship.
People who you think are only seeing your skin might actually be seeing themselves.